My Journey Into Motherhood
Motherhood, now this was the best thing that I have ever done. Becoming a mother has been an amazing experience for me which I love immensely.
At 17 years old I meet my “dream guy”, we all have our “dream guy” at that age. Josh was originally introduced to me by my older brother who worked with him. After a while of Josh and I trying to get each other’s phone numbers we by chance ended up going to the same low key party. We started talking and hit it off instantly and to this day we are still going strong.
Our time together was spent being carefree, silly teenagers enjoying life. However, this carefree, silly way of living was about to change abruptly. I remember the day like it was yesterday, I felt really unwell and I thought that I had a stomach bug. I meet up with my older sister and we went to a fast food restaurant for lunch. I remember walking in and I started to dry retch from the smell of the food. My sister turned to me and said “Are you pregnant?”. My sister is 7 years older than me and already had a child of her own so she had a natural intuition. I remember being in shock and thinking “OMG why the hell would she even ask me that?!” Next thing I know, we were in a supermarket buying a pregnancy test. We went back to my sister’s house and I took the pregnancy test straight away. I waited and saw only one line showing, I ran out the bathroom so excited to tell my sister that I still had a life! (Keeping in mind my age and how self-centred I was). When I returned to the bathroom, I looked down and started getting hot and sweaty really quick, two lines where now showing on the pregnancy test. I started crying, again in shock. My sister and I then went and purchased two more pregnancy tests and to no avail, both of the pregnancy tests showed a positive result!
I now knew I had a serious call to make. I picked up the phone thinking “OMG will my boyfriend leave me?”, “How can I afford a baby?”, “I can’t even look after myself!” The phone was ringing. “Ring, Ring”. My stomach felt like it was in my mouth. Josh answered the phone just how he always does with “Hey babe”. Out of nowhere I started crying out of control. I couldn’t even talk after a few minutes. I eventually got the words out “We need to talk”. Somehow, he knew… Josh said to me “Are you pregnant?”. I wanted to laugh and cry at the same time. I said, “ YES I am!”. What he said next I wasn’t ready for... Josh comforted me and said “Don’t be upset, it’s cool we are having a baby”. I honestly didn’t know what to think or say at that point, it was a huge deal. My pregnancy wasn’t an easy one. I was in and out of hospital with Hyperemesis. I lost a lot of weight. But in the end we made it!
On the 17th of July 2009 at 8:46 pm we welcomed a little baby girl into the world. Jayda was 8.1 pounds and 57 cms long and she was absolutely beautiful. I had a natural birth and it was very straight forward. Jayda really changed our lives.
When Jayda was 2 years old, I had developed a heart condition. The Doctors told me that it might be too stressful on my body and my heart for me to carry again in the future. That was very hard to hear and I tried to not let it determine my future. I managed to defy the odds and I successfully carried another beautiful little girl 6 and a half years after Jayda was born. Lucy came into the world on the 8th March 2016 and was 7.7 pounds, 56 cms long. Lucy was born 3 weeks early due to having to be induced because of my heart condition. Now Lucy’s story I will save for another day,This is how life as a mother started for me. It has been by far the hardest, but most rewarding job I will ever have.
Love Mel xx